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Wow…..it’s been a long time since I last wrote. So much has happened since, and things just got bad to worse that I don’t know where to start and most of all I’m dreading my critics telling me “I told you so!”
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I'm not sat here trying to work out what i'm going to right next.
The fact is I think Dante is cheating on me.
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I'm not sat here trying to work out what i'm going to right next.
The fact is I think Dante is cheating on me.
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I've been reading through the comments on this blog - apart from the fact that half the people don't like me or my family - the same people either accuse me of making things up and trying to work out...
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For those people who commented that I must have been killed by my ex or Dante, unfortunately for you am still here, alive and kicking!
I was in hospital having my appendix removed after weeks of really bad stomach pains, followed by some home rest at my parents which was great, I forget sometimes how nice it's to be looked after by my mum, who by the way is back from Bangladesh along with the rest of the family.
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When I was in Bangladesh, my khala (mum's sister) stayed over with us. She's three-years younger than my mum and has about eight grandchildren which she's very proud off.
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AFTER my dad and brother left for Bangladesh and I went home to my parents house, everybody just seemed to be in a miserable lonely mood. You would think a fortnight without them, we'd be jumping for joy, plenty of parties etc, BUT no.
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My dad and brother flew out to Bangladesh last night after frantic calls from my mum that some gundas are after them. Mum's been trying to have a chilled out time in Bangladesh, after all there's a family wedding and she wanted to spend some time with my grandparents.
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Here's some interesting news. Last night my dad found out the ex husband has got kicked out of work and his uncle is also threatening to kick him out of the house and he's possibly going Bangladesh for one week only cos his younger sister is marrying some bloke from the UK.
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Hiya everybody. Been really busy as my mum has gone to Bangladesh for a cousin's wedding and its been really hectic as I've moved into mum's house until they come back.
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I'm not a violent person at all. Honestly the only fight I was ever involved in was in high school and that was when this girl slapped me across the face for no reason and I hit her back. But apart from that I do not have a violent bone in my body, I'm not an argumentative type either and usually try not to let things bother me or I just stay quiet, it's easier for me to deal with things this way.
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I'M floating on cloud nine at the moment. As Dante was leaving on Saturday he told me he loved me, well it was more like 'I love you babes" as he was leaving the house, it took me by surprise even though we've been spending a lot of time together and feelings have been growing very strong, I thought it was going to be a while before anything was going to be said especially as he was so laid back about everything.
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My ex husband is stalking me and giving my friends crank calls. One friend, a white girl, says she's been getting calls at 1am, all she can hear is kitchen clatter, menu orders being barked out to what she thinks is a chef and Asian men laughing in the background.
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My mum has been having the most strangest dreams recently and they all seem to end with me getting into trouble. Her dreams are not to ignore, she feel as a mother she knows straightaway when something bad was going to happen.......a mothers instinct as she calls it and these recent dreams are no exception.
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I FOUND out something last night- Dante has a child from a previous relationship! It really took me by surprise. He's been talking about his friends, all of whom are close to his age and they all have kids. He's never mentioned his own. Anyway it just occurred to me that I should ask and he told me he had a little girl from his last relationship. I don't know whether it was the fact that he had a child that surprised me or that he hadn't told me about her earlier on and I had to ask!
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Last week was very hectic. I came back on Wednesday after a busy few days in Spain to find my parents house was booming with relatives who had come to visit from Canada and due to lack of space at my mums I am now harbouring three of my cousins in my spare bedroom.
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My cousin's wife called me last night to visit her. The call took me by surprise as she rarely speaks to me and the only time she ever asks me anything is when she wants to know whether I want tea or coffee. My cousin married her from Bangladesh four-years-ago and I guess I've found it hard to relate to her because I can't converse fluently in Bangla and often find it difficult to explain myself.
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My family managed to track down the ex husband and he agreed to a meeting in the weekend. He came along with his uncle, aunt, three burly cousins, it made me wonder what they thought we were going to do to him - beat him up and force him to divorce me?
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Ermmmmmm there seems to be a debate going - the main reason behind it seems to be the fact that I am "dating".
Yes I am Muslim, but I don't pretend to be religious. I am not practising and therefore I do not talk about religion, I do not preach about religion and as someone has mentioned I do not wear my religion on my sleeve. I am not a hypocrite. Yes at one point I did pick up an Islamic book to show my ex husband how to treat his wife. I was doing it for the benefit of improving my marriage - was that wrong? My ex husband was the one who threw religion at my face all the time and half the time he didn't know what he was talking about so I wanted to correct him - was that wrong? If he remarries maybe next time he will know how to treat his wife!
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I have had such a nice weekend. Despite the negative comments, which is expected from what I can only describe as very jealous narrow minded hypocritical asian men, I plan to see Dante again next weekend.
He came round on Saturday night, I didn't have anything planned and wasn't sure whether i'll be going out to the pictures or for a meal, so I wore my favourite jeans, a slinky top and put my hair up in curls. I had been nervous the whole day, Raeni was trying her best to help and was dancing around the living room telling me all about Jamaica. She was very pleased that I was going out with a Jamaican man and was already planning the honeymoon!
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I'd been feeling a little down recently. It started on valentines day - I wasn't pining for the ex - trust me that was the last thing on my mind - but I just thought it would have been nice to cuddle up to someone and share a romantic meal - it didn't help when I had also watched 'Maine Pyar Kiya' for the umpteenth time and it made me feel even more miserable.
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I was woken up last night by a banging on my door. Startled I looked out of the window to see this Bengali man standing outside my door. I recognised him and stupidly went to open the door thinking something had happened and he had come round to give me some bad news.
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BEFORE I start I just want to say thank you to everybody who has supported me with their comments. It really has been encouraging.
It's now day 4 of singledom and I am enjoying every minute of it.
Even when at lunch time I saw the ex walking around holding hands with some teenage girl in the Arndale centre - the aim I think was to make me jealous with rage - but all he achieved from doing this was to prove to me even more that he really is a wanker and a very sick one who thinks walking around with a 16-year-old is cool. It was just so pathetic.
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Well i'ts been two days since I locked the husband out. Let me tell you what happened. Friday night at around 1am most of my friends and my sisters except for my best mate left the house. We'd been having a laugh all night, we ate pizza, chocolate cake, ordered a curry later on and danced around the living room to Bollywood music.
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I'VE done it. The locksmiths have come and changed all the locks in the house. I've put away all his clothes (though there wasn't much of it) in the suitcase he arrived in and have left it outside on the pavement!
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I'VE had enough. I need to kick the husband out. I've made up my mind and nobody is going to change it. In fact I'm not going to tell anybody until I've done it and even then I might not tell anybody. My family can find out in their own time. What's the worst they can do? Stop talking to me? I don't think it will go that far!
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I've been having a very nice ralaxing week. The husband was away visiting friends in London. I made use of every spare god given minute. Most of it was spent resting up, oh hownice it was to have the bed to myself!
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Since the husband's arrival, in the last two months I have put on nearly a stone. Soon after he settled in I have attended more than 14 dinner parties, two thrown by my family and the rest by his huge clan.
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THE first thing I did back in Manchester was to dig out the nail clippers and got the husband to cut off the long nails.
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THE first thing I did back in Manchester was to dig out the nail clippers and got the husband to cut off the long nails.
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WELL first of all apologies for keeping everybody in limbo whilst I have been adjusting to my new life as a married woman. And no the honeymoon period did not last for weeks it ended the day the Husband arrived at Heathrow Airport almost two-months ago.
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IT’S been a hectic couple of weeks recently, what with Ramadan and then Eid and now am back at work seeing to clients who have been inviting themselves to the welcome party they presume I am throwing for the husband.
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HE got his visa. That's right he's got it and now I am confused as ever. My friends ask me why I even bothered applying for his visa if I didn't have any feelings for him, but now that I’m married I think I should at least give it a chance and see what happens.
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LET me first introduce myself before I bombard you with the little details of my life that has so far spiralled out of control and now I have found myself married to a man who does not speak English, who I don't really fancy and who is expected to arrive in the UK in the next couple of weeks!
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