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Rugina is a good fictional story teller.

ever thought about writitng a novel.

To the above anonymous commentator, would you be the first to buy her book if she wrote one? For many of us asian girls our lives are full of complexities and we can fill up hundreds of books if we started to tell people our stories and here is just one of them, for some reason u find it hard to believe, let me think ur probably an Asian male who can't stand anything negative to be wriiten about you lot - let's face it though, people aren't perfect and neither are all Asian men, you get some good ones and u get same really bad ones, but that's with everybody isn't it? Rujina is not squeky clean, she lies to her parents about who her boyfriend is, she's in a deep relationship but then which girls hasn't done all that, i've done it, my friends have all done it, but at least she's upfront about it!

Well I was in the same situation as Rujina.. Mine was alot worse though, he used to beat me up really badly.. Because I didn't conform to his standards.. I wasn't religious enough and I didn't want children just yet..He could justify anything he did but not allow me to do anything and then live off me... My work My money

I stayed with him for a year lost my place and alot of money but I've now got my freedom.. Desi stories are like a patchwork quilt so different but simliar interlocked together as one big piece...

I did things afterwards, dated a nice catholic boy, but none of this changed who I was..

Now I'm with a lovely pakistani man, educated honourable liberal and progressive. But the most important thing is he understands... and even at times if he doesn't he shows paitence and restraint which men of all races need to learn..

For alot of the bad eggs that we do have there are some good ones and I guess being with him has shown me that and I haven't had to change who I am to find him...

At least you have taken him to Bangladesh in your story dear, I was thinking you will go to Jamaica and Dante will introduce you to his exgirlfriends.

It’s all imaginary and fantasy… Imaginary and fantasy……….. Imaginary and fantasy.

Let’s face it though, people aren't perfect and neither are all Asian women, you get some good ones and u get same really bad ones, but that's with everybody isn't it?

Mangoes all looks same, but; some are sweet and some are not and some get rotten when nobody touches.

Hi bengali wife. I read your comments on previous post about your husband and him living in wales. I know this blog isn't about you but it saddens me to see bangladeshi men marrying uk girls for passport only and living away from wife or treating their wives like crap. It so unfair. But not all bengali men are like that. I am one of the lucky few.

I see the Indian's taking over UK, Humm, who told UK to colonize those people on the first place.

Everythings we do comes back right?

Good luck people of UK

how she upfront abt it? upfront abt it behind her parents bak? yeh u make perfect sense! WEIRDO! talk abt lyin thru her arse, no female talks 2 a black guy in bangaldesh and the aunt is then ok abt it wa a liar

I'm Bangladeshi and am married to a nigerian man, we have four children, my eldest is 17. I took them all to bangladesh early this year for the first time and the reception i got was wonderful. My family were accpeted with open arms, my husband wasnm't looked upon badly at all.

I think Bangladeshis in bangladesh are a lot more open minded so I can believe her aunt was OK with it.

They've not been to England and do not understand prejudice like the way we do so they are much more accepting!

My husband was very surprised and my children loved it in Bangladesh. I can;t wait to take them again.

By the way why do you presume Dante has so many ex girlfriends - isn't that stereotyping black men?

I've been married 18 years - can u imagine what it was like when I got married, my family stopped speaking to me, some members still don't speak to me, but my parents came around eventually, everybody kept telling me that he'll walk out on me, but he's still here and we are still happily married!

Rujina u have my full support and my husband is rooting for you too, if u have to date him then carry on dating because it's the only way to get to know a person, I was with my husband for three years before we got married.

I do not like coffee, let alone smell in the morning when I wakeup. For me there is nothing better than smell of “fragrance free odorless female body” in the morning. Perhaps you Bengali wife, whatever your name is, could try to learn and practice some of those female qualities, and then your husband might not stay in workplace and he might not try other freshies.

I never said people cannot choose different things in life and find their ways; neither could anyone stop anybody from doing anything. When you are generalizing everyone with your limited understanding and say people are this and that, there start the problems.

I am not saying I am always right, if I am not wrong sometime in life, I am not a perfect human. I could say “Bengali house wife” don’t you know that Bengali men like tea more then coffee, but, I didn’t. For your information girls and boys are behaving themselves here in UK and other part of the world too, except few like yourself.

By the way Happy, I wonder how many men have you actually dated before you got your husband. After all, this is the only way to know someone. Let’s not start with our parents how they might have found our dad/mum or dads/mums should I say. You people make me laugh.

What female qualities are you on about? All females have a certain scent by the way.....you don't know anythigng about me and my husband so u cannot comment on why he works away! Despite the narrowmindedness of these freshies I am still an openminded person willing to give my marriage a go! I am not on this site to argue with people like you who think you are right. I am not here trying to generalise people either, I was merely stating how things really are - alot of people seem blind to how asian young people act and behave, they are much more modern and western than some people think and this is a fact!

Happy wasn't saying anything bad, so why go slate her as well! what makes you think she dated different men before she got married? Would you have asked her the same thing if she had said she had married an Asian man? I don't think so.

By the way if you want to wake up next to an odourless woman then that's your choice, no need to tell the rest of the world what ur preferences are!

Well said Bengali Wife!

For your information Kamal, my husband is my childhood sweetheart, I have not known any other man!

I am quite surprised that you came to the conclusion that I must have dated many men before I met my husband!

I don't know what kind of women you may have come across or are acquainted with, but pls do not judge us all because you don't know any better!

Salaam and hi.
I didnt know rugina had wrote something new about her relationship with dante. I been posting on her other topic where she meets him but I Just came across this one.
Wow, nice to hear there are other people who are married to africans just like i am.
happy sis, where abouts in uk are you? and mashallah sis you got 4 kids! I got a little 10 month old girl myself.

bangladeshies are not more acceptin. their the worst kind! they are so judgemental and like 2 keep bengalis with bengalis, if a girl or boy goes 4 som1 other than bengalis their 'reputation' is at steak. let alone speakin 2 black ppl even a boy! aunties would kill and that ain a jke so i dno y u actin like bangladesh peeps are all safe when they ain........

shutup bengali wife ur jus annoyin

(shakes head) mr kamal why such narrowmindedness.

Bengali wife, I am going to call you Boodhymoti since you have not given me any choice. I don’t want to call you Bengali wife, because, I don’t think you are anybody’s wife I think you are a fake too, like Rugina who is making up stories and thinks you are a hero, well to me you are no hero girls, okay Boodhymoti.

Boodhymoti, first you asked me to comment diplomatically, which, I tried, you responded calling me narrow minded and a freshy. Now I will still try to comment diplomatically as possible.

You said I don’t know anything about you and your husband, actually I have commented based on the information you have provided.

(My husband works in north Wales and only comes home twice a month to see us, he stays top of the restaurant, they do what ever they like without anybody grassing them up, that's why he's gone there, to be honest though am trying to get my husband to come back home, he's head is full of shit. He's new to this country and the more he hangs around with other "freshies" the more callous and vindictive he becomes and all they ever do is gossip and gossip)

This above paragraph is not mine, it is your own. You have given so much information, probably you don’t even realise.

Now let’s talk you and me, since you have chosen this path.

You said to me, Kamal wake up and smell the coffee, I told you I don’t like coffee, especially smell in the morning, instead I like to wake up near a “fragrance free odourless female body” in the morning. That was my answer to your question okay Boodhymoti.

You also mentioned you are not on this site to argue with people like me, how come you comment on behalf of other freshies??? like you are up in their eff arse.

You mentioned your husband and other men all they ever do is gossip, well, you are discussing behind these men back isn’t that gossiping???

These were also your own words; they’re so immature and that's because they are so insecure, I can’t remember who said that about them, was it you rujina? But whoever it was is right, they are so insecure that they act childish - come on guys they come from a country where acid throwing on a girls face is normal behaviour!

What do you call these isn’t it gossiping and generalising all the Bangladeshis who throw acid on girls faces and that is our normal behaviour???

You have mentioned would I have asked “Happy" the same thing if she had said she had married an Asian man? Well I was only answering her when she said the only way to know someone is by dating, I have nothing against black people it is girls like you Boodhymoti who twisting the words.

Boodhymoti Bengali wife, the information you have provided, I can look at it so many ways, and let’s not talk about responding, if I use all the words that I wanted use to comments then it will be an embarrassment for all the Bengalis not just myself. After all you decided to call yourself a Bengali wife, maybe girls like yourself don’t even realise what it means to be proud and say that I am a proud Bengali I have pride for my people, whoever doing wrong things, I Boodhymoti myself will try to teach those brothers if I meet them, I will tell them, that this is wrong my Bengali brothers. Instead you have decided to come to www site and gossip.

What are you thinking??? Telling the whole wider world that your husband leaves weeks of gap in his marriage and still you are willing to give it a try. You think people don’t understand what you are saying, just because you girls don’t know any better.

Well done Brother Kamal, Aapneto Kamal kordyaa yeaar, but I would not call Bengali wife a “Boodhymoti” though. After I have finished reading your comment I phoned my twins Bengali friends Shahanarah (Shahan) and Jahanarah (Jenny) they told me the meaning of “Boodhy” which means intelligence and moti they use to name a person, which means you are actually calling her an “Intelligent girl” when she is not.

Anyway, I think she does generalise everyone, especially the Bengali community. Why else she would call herself a Bengali wife and not give a name, I think she take people for granted.

If she indeed gives a shit about how others might think of herself and her community then, I don’t think she would have been so careless.

I have to agree that I think a lot of this is fictitious.

This family sounds extremely dysfunctional. The parents don't seem to have any sort of control over the family. The eldest daughter is allowed to date/marry anyone and everyone but take no responsiblity of her actions. Why marry someone whilst on the rebound, bring him here then hang him out to dry? Thats such selfish.

As to the debate between Mr Kamal and Bengali Wife, I'm inclined to agree with Mr Kamal. I'm an asian woman and I know how annoying asian men can be, but there is no point tarnishing all of them with the same brush. The behaviour of asian men stems from the culture and background of the family, education and how they have been brought up to perceive women. Most guys these days are fairly good to their women.

But it frustrates me no end when parents find out that their child is dating and rush them off to Bangladesh to marry a total stranger in the hope the child will become 'good', when clearly you know they will come back still date the same personl but commit further sin because they are married- its nonsense!

Still trying to figure out what 'boodhymoti' means....

Story of Boodhymoti, I was reading at the age of 7 in primary school in Bangladesh.

A young girl lived in a village with her family, where a jungle surrounded their house. A group of travellers lost their way in the jungle and found this little girl playing her own. So they started talking to her and she has shown them so many of her talents, which, I don’t want to go on about it.
One of her talent were that, she climbed onto a mango tree and said people what kinds of mangoes do you prefer? They said what do you mean? She asked them how do you want to have your mangoes? Hot or cold? They said hot is fine. So she gave a shake on top of the tree and mangoes were falling on sands, and while the people were blowing their breath to remove the sands to eat the mangoes. Suddenly the girl shout from the above, I could see that you people are enjoying your hot mangoes by blowing your breaths to make it cold.
I called her this so call Bengali wife “Boodhymoti” because I found exactly the opposite on this girl than the real Boodhymoti.
I will still leave it for you to figure it out “Sam” thanks for your genuine opinion, especially for saying; “Most guys these days are fairly good to their women”

You stupid “Bengali wife” what happened now u can’t say “Sorry to go on guys” with ur crap anymore? What a load of crap u was talking about, you stupid girl, u didn’t just talked about Bengali community, and u putted all the Asians under the spotlight.

I suggest u start talking to ppl and find out about different communities around u, everyone has their differences and secrets; they don’t go about them, especially about their own community.

I hope u've learned something from this.

THE MUSLIM WOMAN 'UNVEILED'

by Izdehar Albowyha

You look at me and call me oppressed,
Simply because of the way I'm dressed,
You know me not for what's inside,
You judge the clothing I wear with pride,
My body's not for your eyes to hold,
You must speak to my mind, not my feminine mold,
I'm an individual, I'm no mans slave,
It's Allahs pleasure that I only crave,
I have a voice so I will be heard,
For in my heart I carry His word,
"O ye women, wrap close your cloak,
So you won't be bothered by ignorant folk",
Man doesn't tell me to dress this way,
It's a Law from God that I obey,
Oppressed is something I'm truly NOT,
For liberation is what I've got,
It was given to me many years ago,
With the right to prosper, the right to grow,
I can climb moutains or cross the seas,
Expand my mind in all degrees,
For God Himself gave us LIB-ER-TY,
When He sent Islam,
To You and Me!

i agree wif mr kamal, he is the only 1 talkin sense, n by the lukz of it he understands the culture of bengali much better than some of the people in this blog, weird how only girls r defending rujina and are supporting her, god WOMENS these days are soooo haram man they make me sick, all you girls know that deep down what rujina is doing is haram in islam. yet you still stick up for her, but then again i dont balme you modern days modern times you have to stick with the new world order.

i agree wif mr kamal, he is the only 1 talkin sense, n by the lukz of it he understands the culture of bengali much better than some of the people in this blog, weird how only girls r defending rujina and are supporting her, god WOMENS these days are soooo haram man they make me sick, all you girls know that deep down what rujina is doing is haram in islam. yet you still stick up for her, but then again i dont balme you modern days modern times you have to stick with the new world order.

Why do you wait ages before posting anything? Blogs attract attention when there is regular activity happening, due to your carelessness and unconsiderateness with this blog you've probably lost many readers! Sort it out!

Wowww, niyyyce to hear there are other people who are married to aaaaafricans just like i am.
haaaaappy siyyyyysssss, where abouts in uuuuuk aaaaare you?

Wha so special about marrying a black guy anyway, if u believe in it so much y do u care what other has to say Rugina? U don’t need to tell the whole world about it and making crap stories like that. As a matter of fact its kind of racist remarks when girls like Rugina and Afghangirl and others r saying am marrying a black guy and others r this and that.

i agree wif mr kamal, he is the only 1 talkin sense, n by the lukz of it he understands the culture of bengali much better than some of the people in this blog, weird how only girls r defending rujina and are supporting her, god WOMENS these days are soooo haram man they make me sick, all you girls know that deep down what rujina is doing is haram in islam. yet you still stick up for her, but then again i dont balme you modern days modern times you have to stick with the new world order.

Posted by: siam | August 2, 2007 05:15 PM

Fuck you Rugina I know its you as Siam

Why do you wait ages before posting anything? Blogs attract attention when there is regular activity happening, due to your carelessness and unconsiderateness with this blog you've probably lost many readers! Sort it out! You eff bitch.

ur plan doesn't go very well Rugina Begum? Does it? I don't think so. 1 day u call ur self with 1 name next day another.

Perhaps u can call ur self Tammanna or mayby its better Rugina as it is, caus calling ur self Rugina gives an impression of having a beutyspot on ur cheek.

Keep doing it though its fun.

Thank you Siam,

I take your comment as a compliment and I thank you from bottom of my heart.

However, those who opposed Islam might not understand this, but I must explain what I am exactly talking about.

One will not find any comments of mine that I am preaching Islam; I am not saying anything wrong doing that, its just I had no intention of talking about Islam. Since you Siam started with Islam, I must also finish it from where you stopped.

I do not see the point of judging Islam by the actions of Muslims. When clearly people are admitting they are Muslims, at they are supporting the adulteries and some are even practising themselves and inviting others to it, as we have found blog such as this.

Islam has its own recognitions and (Quran) is the final updated modern completed guided book, just like the Bible were after the (torah) when Prophet Moses died, Jesus had revelations’ bible was the updated guide book for that time, every generations had been guided the same way.

Now, we are not the fist human beings to say we are the most modern people and we must follow the new way of life. We can call our self-21st/23rd centuries people, but when some one says they are Muslim we judge them with Islam, not the other way around.

I must say Siam, that these boodhymoties, boodhies (wisdom) has no end. Infect they are following new world order so well that, it made them INSANE. They talk like they are drunk 24/7. The followers of the new world order defined their own logic and human commonsense.

This so call “Bengali wife” is one of the followers of new world order. She started talking about herself and her husband; she gave us all the information we needed, when I comment she says you do not know anything about my husband or me!
How hilarious stories of their virtual life.

Another follower of the new world order is this “Afghangurl” her comment in “Last taboo” who thinks Bengali men are short and fat so that is way their women start looking! The brother called “Asian man” asked her, why then she herself married to a black man? Are the Afghani men short and fat too? She could not answer!

These boodhymoties are somehow following the same rotes as the Blog owner Rugina Begum. They are the real followers of the new world order, they are slave to fashion, slave to money and their “icons” are celebrities!

These boodhymoties are so busy creating the destiny of their virtual world that only their real destiny keeping them as real human beings.

Mr kamal.
its a shock to see someone writing about me here lol

Anyway, i've been away for long so thas why i didnt reply but ok, if yall want an answer to that question, yes afghan men are tall and slim but i just am not attracted to light coloured men, short with slim or fat bodies,...

...i wanted a real man, nicely tanned, tall or medium hight, and a muscular body (which african men have) and that is what allah gave me alhamdulilah. why shud youz be jelouse of what god gave me? its naseeb after all ryt?

And Hey, if my father and brothers say its ok to marry a black man...then WHO THE HELL ARE YOU to tell me who to marry?!

I think rujina may have been kiled by her ex boyfriend, or ex-husband...

NO MAAAN SHE IS NOT DEAD.

I think Rugina is too tied up and busy most of the time sucking up to her junior colleagues, because she is now an expired (plastic/freshy) not just because of her age, she probably has got some weight too, I am saying this, because she has to seat on her arse in front of the computer a long time to update her blog and not to mention the office tables.

By the way Afghangurl, how come you never answered my questions on “last taboo” you offspring of LMAO.

miah...who the hell are you?
when did u ever ask me a question...unless you keep usin fake names...why not come here usin jus one...
and why dont you finish off wat you was sayin above? "you offspring of ???"

You're probably a pakistani, coz i dont think bengalis know much or have a grudge against afghans...not that i know of anyway...its usually the kashmiris, gujeratis etc and all the men that have argued with me on here about my culture, they probably one of the above too.

N Why is it that, you have grudje with our cuture....i know your type miah....once you'r men come in contact with afghan men, you're all scared shi*less yet you talk behind their backs!
Once your grujed type men would come talk to me, then i told them i was afghan, they asked me wether i had brothers and how many lolllllll and warned off all the other guys by telling them that this girl has brothers and she is afghan.
I dont see why you people fear us afghans.

Anyway, people do you see how the ignorant men on here try to change the subject of rujina datin black man and start picking argumants with me (a girl) lolz

Afghangurl, you wanted a man with nicely tanned, tall or medium height, and a muscular body that’s what you have, why are you making such a fuss about it than? You and Rugina think only African or former African have this kind of body and no one else has? Well you lot may have been overdosed, after all Afghanistan is the world’s largest Opium poppy producer.

Annonymous/miah/asian man...why dont you use one name on this blog...i dare ya!!! ...ha!
... oh wow i really am offended about the opium comment above lol....get real, aint you heard not to believe evrything you hear on CNN, FOX NEWS, SKY NEWS, ABC NEWS etc etc lol...you realy are so gullible arent ya! bush fooled ya! anyone can!

Why aren't you using a name Annonymous/Afghangurl/bengaliwife.........you realy are so gullible arent ya! bush fooled ya!

Now, I have not doubt that you are in drugs.