The tasty jerk chicken
I have had such a nice weekend. Despite the negative comments, which is expected from what I can only describe as very jealous narrow minded hypocritical asian men, I plan to see Dante again next weekend.
He came round on Saturday night, I didn't have anything planned and wasn't sure whether i'll be going out to the pictures or for a meal, so I wore my favourite jeans, a slinky top and put my hair up in curls. I had been nervous the whole day, Raeni was trying her best to help and was dancing around the living room telling me all about Jamaica. She was very pleased that I was going out with a Jamaican man and was already planning the honeymoon!
I have not been out with someone properly since my ex boyfriend. Dates with him use to consist of being picked up around the corner from my mum's house, going to the Trafford Centre to watch a Bollywood movie and then getting a quick bite to eat at one of the restaurants. If we had some extra time, that will be taken up by making out in the back seat of his car which will be parked in some dimly lit car park.
My ex husband never even took me out, he never learnt how to.
But on Saturday I felt very much like a lady, I had my own house and my date was coming to meet me in my home, there was no hiding from parents, I didn't feel like the awkward teenager that I was when I met my ex boyfriend, I felt like a woman, I had grown up and now I wanted to be treated like a lady despite the nerves that where working overtime in my stomach.
Dante was 40 mins late getting to mine. I resisted from ringing to see where he was and at one point thought he wasn't going to turn up. Raeni had gone out for the night and I was beginning to think that turning up late wasn't a very good sign at all. Just as I was about to give up on him, I heard his Golf R32 pull up outside.
He rang the door bell and I almost tripped running to the door. I held a book in my hand pretending that I was too busy reading to even notice that he had been late.
On the doorstep stood Dante wearing a white T-shirt, which showed off his build, he was very toned and muscular, complete opposite to my ex whose t-shirt often fit me very nicely. He wore faded jeans and very bright blue trainers, which actually looked nice. In his hands he was holding two bags of what looked like groceries.
Dante apologised for being late and said he had wanted to surprise me with a home cooked meal. The reason he was late was because he bought the chicken from Asda and then remembered I was Muslim so had to run into Longsight and pick up a halal chicken from one of the shops and with traffic everywhere he got a bit late.
I told him it was sweet but that I hadn't even noticed he was late.
Anyway he went straight into the kitchen and started taking his shopping out and told me he was going to make Jamaican jerk chicken and rice. I was surprised he could cook. But he told me he was a great chef and that I should just relax. Oh he did notice my hair and clothes and told me I looked very sexy. But I was still so nervous and was making cups of tea to calm my nerves down.
Dante was born and raised in Manchester, his parents had emigrated from Jamaica as young children. His mum was four-years-old when she came to Manchester. At the time most Jamaican families lived very near each other, mainly in Hulme and then moved to Moss Side and as more people came from Jamaica they all settled around each other.
It's a bit like the Asian community who settled in certain areas of the city in the 60s, they all had one thing in common, to work and go back to their home country. But like Dante's family and I suppose even mine, they all eventually remained in the UK making this their home. Like us Asians, Dante was also sent to Jamaica for holidays to learn about his own culture and roots. He told me about the villages he had visited where chickens were freshly slaughtered for dinner every night, it was a bit like Bangladesh, the last time I was there my dad had fresh chicken almost every day, they use to run around free all the time.
Dante's mum had taught all her children how to cook and he loved Jamaican dishes along with fish and chips. Like me he saw himself as British, after all we are British born, but he had a lot of respect for his own cultural background.
I found Dante really interesting, in many ways his community was so similar to ours, we were't that different at all. He was very passionate about things and he found me and my culture fascinating too. I was the first Asian girl he had been out with.
He kept on telling me how beautiful he thought I was and he couldn't stop staring at me when he first met me. I'd never been complimented so much in my life, at times i'd have a sneak look at the mirror to see what he saw. I never thought of myself as drop dead gorgeous but that's how he made me feel.
To top it off the meal was fantastic. There's one thing I am not shy about and that's eating. He filled my plate up with rice and chicken and it went down fast. The food was delicious and am still craving some more. He was surprised that I was such a big eater, I told him I loved food especially when it was as tasty as his jerk chicken and promised to cook him a meal very soon.
After dinner, I quickly washed the dishes and we settled in the lounge. At that point I was even more nervous. I was hoping he wasn't expecting sex that night, there was no way I was going to give myself away to a man that I had just met, and I didn't want to sound like a prude by telling him I didn't want to have sex, he might not have even thought about it and I didn't want to make a fool out of myself, but it just made me even more nervous and I even stuttered a few times.
I think he was able to sense this. We had the TV on and was I just chatting about Desperate Housewives and I was insisting that he must watch it. But I was sat at one end of the couch and he was on the other, not particularly cosy. He then started moving close and I thought I was going to release a hundred butterflies flying straight from my stomach and out of my mouth.
He took my hands into his and started stroking my face, telling me how soft my skin was. He was looking directly into my eyes and was moving forward. I hadn't kissed a man since my ex boyfriend. I had never kissed my husband and wasn't sure what to do nut I saw myself fall into his arms as he kissed me softly. Instead of holding back I kissed him back, but it was nice and soft and sent a tingly feeling down my back.
He then moved his head away from mine, put one arm around me and held my hands with the other. I wasn't nervous after that. We sat on the sofa watching a bit of TV but mainly talking. He left as Raeni walked in at 2am, the time again had just flown by.
We arranged to meet again this weekend and he said he might even pop around in the week but will let me know.
After he left I plopped on the sofa and couldn't stop thinking about the nice time we had. He made me feel wonderful.
Comments
Dat's so sweet, does he have a brother?
Posted by: Sam | February 27, 2007 11:52 AM
I have been reading this blog and am very intrigued. I am a black man and I think the author whould be able to date who she wants. For so long here in America there has been racism against black people, there still is but in major cosmopolitan cities things are changing. If anything there are more interacial relationships in the US than in any other country in the world. Many of my friends are with non-black partners, they are happy and in a loving and sustainable relationships. When people around you become accepting then the relationship has a chance to flourish. I commned the author for looking beyond skin colour and I wish her good luck in her quest for happiness. As for her ex husband, immigration should deport him as soon as they can!
Posted by: Franklin Jnr, US | February 27, 2007 02:09 PM
A decent girl does not kiss her boyfriend sat on the sofa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by: ahmed | February 27, 2007 02:34 PM
Wag1 peeps, me friend put me on this site, though am black its interesting, leave da poor girl alone yous narrow minded men, so she going out with black man, so wat? he gonna treat her good, not all black men are scrubs, we all aint bed hopping from one girl to da oda, he sound like a true man and he'll make her happy. Am only 17 yeah, and there's plenty of fit asian girls in me college, but they 2 scared to go out wid us coz of wat ppl and family will say, but I tell dem not 2 care about others cos we can take care of dem. The black guy who dating the asian bird here hope he treats her good and show ppl wat we really like.
Posted by: Kaza | February 27, 2007 02:43 PM
i sooooo agree with ahmed, the girl is not a muslim. she shows her ex-husband that backbiting is haram, and tries to convey that she is a good muslim, and she does not backbite but what the hell is she doing, muslims dont date, it doesnt matter if the guy is black, sikh or from any other cultural background. DATING is HARAM ALL TOGETHER. your not a muslim Regina and i dont think that you should classify yourself as one either. your just a gorified bengali, who wants to forget about their own roots, culture and religion. you ruined your ex-husband's life by getting married to him, so you can forget about your boyfriend dissing you and getting married to some one else. im not sticking up for your husband either because he is not good himself.
Posted by: Afsana | February 27, 2007 03:10 PM
Rujina doesn't wear her religion on her sleeve, she's never talked about religion or pretends to be religious. I too am a Muslim girl and I am dating my partner of five years and we plan to marry this year and guess what he's white and has converted. I know many girls who pray five times a day but they also have boyfriends, are we all bringing shame? We live in a time where we call ourselves Muslim because we are born into a Muslim family, we do things because it will make our parents happy, but like Rujina I don't go around saying I am Muslim and demanding my rights, I do what i feel is right but it maybe wrong in other people's eyes. If your a practising Muslim then that's fine, but don't judge the rest of us, we might not be religious but we are good people and who knows we might find our faith again, but don't condemn us until we do!
Posted by: Lara | February 27, 2007 04:10 PM
Shame on you Rugina, not even devorced yet and your seeing someone else, that speaks volumes about you.
Now thinking about your blogg, there is definetly two sides to a coin.
You claim your a muslim and acting in a non muslim manner.
have trust and faith in allah and you will find what you are looking for in life. Shaitan is tempting you in wrong direction wake up and get out of this mess.
obviously there is nothing wrong for a muslim girl to marry a black muslim guy. but non muslim no way.
please do not let shaitan take you in a wrong direction get help from your close friends. seems to me you are desperate for Love.
Remember mens brains are under their belly not in the head.
Posted by: anon | February 27, 2007 04:29 PM
if you want to date a black guy you an do that. if he treats you well who is to say that that is wrong. no one is perfect. we all live our own lives you can't judge us by what we do. even if you are a muslim it doesn't mean you have to be soo devoted. we are muslim ourselfs. were not exactly devoted but we are true to our religion. we don't go judging people by wht they do. if you are happy why should you sacrifice your happiness because people think that you are a bitch because you are going out with a black guy. i am going out with a black guy myself and im 16. he's really sweet like your man too. don't listen to people. if they want to talk then let them and then they are going on about being good muslims. if they can talk about things like that then they are not exactly perfect muslims. if you fell what you are doing is right then stick by it.
Posted by: jade + kiara | February 27, 2007 04:44 PM
I think it is time to give your husband a second chance. He is new to the country and culture, everyone makes mistakes. Your head is in a mess because of the ex, marriage and separation coming in quick succession.
I don't have a problem with inter-racial marriage, I think it's a good thing. But you are talking about marriage and love. I would check on the guy's intentions you are sounding a bit desperate for marriage so why not go back to your husband. Every marriage goes into bad times but you could make it work with a bit of faith.
Posted by: Lutfur Rahman | February 27, 2007 07:18 PM
i don't think she shouldgiveher ex husband a second chance, he was a loser and a control freak, he would have only made things worse and made her feel real unhappy.
Just because she has met someone new so quick doesn't mean she is not thinking straight. I met my husband the day I split up with a boyfreind of two years. Its amazing how quick you can fall in love and we have now been married happily for 10 years.
You can't help when you fall in love and who you fall in love with. This new man might just be the one or he might not, but let's give him a chance shall we, he seems nice and I love reading this blog, its like a tale unfolding right before my eyes.
I don't think she has anything to be ashamed of, follow your heart rujina and be yourself xxx
Posted by: sara | February 27, 2007 09:26 PM
hey dnt really no wat to say but you guys shouldn't care wat oda ppl fink aslong as ur happy anyways chat to u soon take care byeeeexoxoxoxoxoxoxox
Posted by: Ruji Gani | February 27, 2007 09:30 PM
Can you people leave her alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She wants to get on with her life!!! She's dating a black man..SO WHAT??? Get out of your caves...if you have nothing nice to say..don't post!!!!! Don't you people have arranged marriages to plan or something...Leave her alone!!! I have met so many Muslim girls who contemplate suicide because they cannot deal with their lives anymore and it's because of haters like you that these girls feel this way!!! Good on You Rujina!!! You are an inspiration...dont listen to the haters...they should have been born 200 years ago!
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | February 27, 2007 10:49 PM
I found this site whilst looking for something else and I want to say how impressed I am by the courage of the women who have left blogs on here.
I am white, british and christian, I was in a very violent marraige and walked away. I felt bad because divorce is against my religion but I Ive been dating for 5 years and now I dont feel bad because what kind of God would want you to be unhappy when youre harming noone??
Rujina, you do what makes you happy, to me you sound mature and responsible. XXX
Posted by: Sally | February 27, 2007 11:16 PM
My friends and I read this and we have a laugh at it so much. It's ridiculous how a freak writes her life story on the internet. Don't know what comfort she gets out of it but its lame and sickening. Yeh maybe her husband was a freak but what does that make her a bigger freak. Her husband did tha to her cus she deserved it maybe. Feel rude on her parents the shit they must have been thru. The shame!!!!! And omg she thinks she is so amazing going out with Dante who most prob is a fake she makes out as if she is so lush. She is one freak getting comfort from internet a gorified asian. It ain abt Muslim its jus how 2 act like a decent female. When you meet some one u get to knw them not hook up and get it onnnnnnnnn. God Rujina jus pisses me offfffffffffffffffffffff
Posted by: Fatima | February 28, 2007 01:38 AM
Stay strong. HMM SOME OF THESE COMMENS....WHAT CAN YOU SAY......THE ONLY WORD I CAN THINK OF IS HYPOCRITE........, who are to judge...let her live her own life and live your own.....We have no right to say what makes a good muslim and what does not. Enjout yourself ....some peeps definition of a muslim is so contrived .
Posted by: Anonymous | February 28, 2007 03:04 AM
Fatima, maybe because this blog is too close to home which is the reason you and your friends find it such a laugh! I know girls just like Rujina who are stuck in a loveless marriage and stuck with a freshie from back home. At least she has the guts to talk about it. Me and my friends reckon you guys are probab;y just jealous that the girl has got on with her life and has met a nice guy and is able to see him in the privacy of her own home.......... I know plenty of Asian girls who will love this kind of opprtunity. Most girls take advantage of it whilsty they are at university, but how many do you know own their own home and are doing what makes them happy?
Posted by: Lara | February 28, 2007 09:48 AM
I recently got married to a man from Pakistan, he's my cousin actually and he's here now and I am finding it so dificult, he's a complete control freak. I hate him but can't get out of this marriage because he's my cousin and there's too much pressure to make it work from my family. When i read this blog it made me at least feel that I'm not the only one in this position. It even gives me hope that maybe one day I too will be able to get rid of my husband and start a new life. I hope it sooner rather than later. I enjoy reading this. If you don't like it thne don't read it, but some people who are critical read this because they must enjoy it. People are too judgemental. if you've not been in this situation it's hard to comprehend what we go through. I will do anything to find real love, i'm not desparate, wbut who doesn't want some real companionship. My valentines day was spent cooking and cleaning and feeding a clan of 20 relatives, my husband didn't buy me a card or flowers, he was too "skint" but not skint enough to go out half the night with his friends. I would rather be with a white man or a black man than to ever be with a Pakistani man again. i'm so depressed that I'm on anti depressants and just wish this misery will end soon so i can be free again.
Posted by: Anonymous | February 28, 2007 10:15 AM
fatima your amazing, what you said is by far the best comment. I think regina is lying about most of things especially Dante, i mean it seems way too far fetched. she only shows herself in the good light and its only one side of the story. you never know she might have been just as bad as her ex-husband. what Regina is doing now (if its true) then she is proving her husband right as he would now say that she has been dating this guy from day 1. .. and by the way lara i am a practising muslim who has done Umrah, and helps other muslim girls realise their mistakes in to becoming better muslims as we are all brothers and sisters and that's what we are suppose to do. so regina i don't mean to sound harsh, but what i am saying may help you in the life ahead. so sorry if i offended you in any ways and the other people who have left comments.
Posted by: Afsana | February 28, 2007 10:16 AM
What's far fetched? I met my current partner the day I split with my ex boyfriend.
I was so mad with his for cheating on me that when I was trying to get into a parking space I bumped into someone else's car.
That someone else is now my partner. He saw the state I was in and took me to a nearby cafe where he bought me a drink.
We hit it off straightaway and have been together for 10 years.
A bit far fetched don't you think? Things like that can only happen in movies? No it can happen in real life, you can meet people and fall in love just like that and it happens the most when your not even looking for it xxx
Posted by: sara | February 28, 2007 11:04 AM
is it now, that's also too far-fetched sara, and by the way you guys are living in a fantasy world. im not going against you people but i'm just trying to convey that life is more harder than that. your all showing Regina the wrong thing, giving her false hopes that would probably never come true. the shatan is influencing you to say these things to her, but if you have iman in you, then you would help her and make her see things from an islamic point of view.
Posted by: Afsana | February 28, 2007 12:25 PM
I agree with you afsana on this one, these girls are living in fairy land, the only support rujina will get is from the white community and non-muslims only!
Posted by: ahmed | February 28, 2007 12:51 PM
Afsana is the only one on this site talking sense.
Rugina needs to get out of this fantasy and come to reality.
I can understand all the comments which are made some are good and some are bad.
Honestly a muslim women shud never ever get it on with any non marham man muslim or non muslim.
Rugina you still are a married girl fear hell fire before committing (zina)adultery.
non muslim who are commenting on this side you wont understand certain comments made by muslims on this site, you are just generalising your own feelings and advising rugina which is no good, first of all understand the both side of the story and then make judgement.
Finally if you really have feelings for Dante then invite him to islam and if he accepts willingly then ask for marriage.
Posted by: Iqbal | February 28, 2007 02:49 PM
Hold on evryone, shez only just started seeing this guy! Who sed its going anywer? And who da frig are you lot to judge? Who sez he wont revert? Im a practising sister and i knw plently ov black brothers who have reverted and yes granted dating while married is islamically wrong. Not once has Rugina worn her faith on her sleeve proclaiming shez this and that. So if she wants to date this guy and insha allah lead to sumthing then alhamdulilla. As for doing bad she will be asked by da one who has the right to ask and JUDGE. Know this, who he (Allah swt) guides no one can misguide and who he misguides no one can guide.
So wer do you ppl lyk Ahmed and Ambia get off goin round judging others. Who made you the pious ones and go round judging ppl? I HATE PPL DAT JUDGE OTHERS! Allah swt will do dat when we all die.
Yes Ahmed you and your friends will have the same opinion coz your all typical asian blokes who has no friggin clue wot its lyk for us asian women. Keep your damn opinions to urself and watch THIS space coz Ruginaz relationship wi this guy will work ( if she wants it to), and you knw why??? Hez NOT asian!
Posted by: dee | February 28, 2007 04:04 PM
Excuse me iqbal, but maybe Islam needs to get with the times! You're saying she''s only going to get support from white people??? Get a life!!! Don't immigrate to a country with different views on marriage if you can't handle it. Islam seriously needs to get with the times!!! Women shouldnt date in your religion? That's wonderful and that's why they end up with losers like rugina did...I dont understand...
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | February 28, 2007 04:26 PM
Fatima! Honey i bet your lyf is worser than Rugina and if you try and if u tell us any different then bullshit. Your sad for even sitting there wi ur friends and commenting on summat you dont have a clue abt.
Afsana darling dont judge, you have no right.
Some ov you are sitting there and luking at the negative, just imagine the swab she will get when he reverts to islam which he will have to do. IF they get married.
Also our prophet (swa) sed "marry not ov ur culture, not ov ur neighbour but those ov far and wide" and that is a hadith.
We all need to remember that allah swt is the almighty, the most merciful and the most FORGIVING.
Posted by: dee | February 28, 2007 04:36 PM
Afsana has hit the nail on the head.
If this women was a muslim then she would have done things islamically. However to invite a non muslim and initiate adultery is not islamic at all.
What i find amazing is Rujina 's reference to an islamic booklet that she produced in order to make her husband improve his ways. With hindsight, this is hypocrisy.
Rujina must understand but she is free to excersise her own will. She must understand that after she commits to this relationship and decide to pursue a non'islamic life then she should drop all references to islam and continue life without being a fake muslim just to please her parents.
Posted by: zak | February 28, 2007 04:53 PM
i've been reading this blog and every story rejina has written ashley has made a comment on it so i would just like to say...ashley get a life! you chat rubbish! how old are you btw? im guessing 17/18??
oh and fatima...your comment really did make me laugh it was one of the best. i also agree rejina obv doesnt know how to be a decent girl! hmmm i wonder what she looks like???
Posted by: shamima | February 28, 2007 06:09 PM
Ashley I did note emmigrate to this country, so stop being narrow and single minded i am british born and bred so stop making assuptions by my name.
Dee where did you get that hadiths, show proof of chains of hadith before quoting, what you say is this authentic ?
Rugina is only telling her side of the story what about her husbands side, so people who are taking rugina's side should know their are two side of the coin.
Rugina no disrespect or offence to you, I think you should seriously do deep thinking before making any decisions abviously you probably are.
Posted by: Anonymous | February 28, 2007 06:52 PM
obviously people are going to judge if
shes putting her shitty life story. and i duno y u guys are judging me saying my life bulshit u commented on me from my comment just as i am commenting on rugina from her lame blog
Posted by: fatima | February 28, 2007 08:07 PM
fatima and the rest of yous, if u think her life is so shitty and lame then don't read it, go and do something else, it can't be dat if your on it all the time.
Posted by: Ruji Gani | February 28, 2007 09:06 PM
Gosh, arent we all so lucky there are perfect people like fatima and shamima to tell us all how to be good. Their lives must be rainbows and roses with all the peace and contentment they're spreading around.
Posted by: Lily | February 28, 2007 10:35 PM
Iqbal, I didnt mean that you immigrated to GB, I meant whoever in your family did. Obviously your parents or grandparents did. i wasnt making assumptions by your name. My boyfriend is sikh and his name is very punjabi but I wouldnt assume he was born in Punjab beacuse of his name. And my comment was about Islam...it needs to get with the times!!!!! Other religions change some old ways and adopt new methods with the changing times. Rugina never talked about being this super religious girl so why do you have to bring up this "you can't date" stupidity. Get your head out of the 17th century. The world is changing and people need to accept it!
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | February 28, 2007 10:45 PM
Oh and by the way Iqbal...her husbands side of the story?? haha...ya that would be classic. Obviously, the only reason he wanted to marry a british girl was to get his citizenship. I've seen this scenario way too many times and that's the only reason it happens. Single and narrow minded, i am not..thank you very much!!! People like you who will only marry within your community are single and narrow minded!!! My boyfriend is Sikh and we are trying to overcome all the stupid comments that people like you throw at us.
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | February 28, 2007 10:53 PM
Jealous of whattttttttttt?? Of Ruginas life? Oh Lara get a grip mate I did not comment that her love life I just said she pisses me off and theirs two side to a story and we are reading one which is biased. Anyway I did not comment on the fact she is dating a black guy and about how she is acting like a non muslim girl it is the 21st century I know people who Muslims who have married white people and have babies its got nufin 2 do with that. And what the hell are u on abt, atleast she has the guts to admit what? on the internet? oh yh i agree she is very corageous. her story is not new, its normal and everyday life many people bloody have bad marriages and marry back home and the divorce big flippin deal.
Posted by: Fatima | March 1, 2007 12:49 AM
Lara Rugina has to face it that she is going to get comments regardless if its positive and negative feedback. They way you read my comment and replied to me, thats the same way i read her blog and commented on it. I jus think its dumb and discussion has built up and the seriousness of it is so not needed. Anyway im sure she said going back home was her choice so her problem it didn't work out and shes dating a black guy and so watttt like this story is rare or sumin, The principle is the point Afsana makes!
Posted by: Fatima | March 1, 2007 12:52 AM
NO ONE IS BLOODY SAYIN ANYTHING ABOUT HER DATING A BLACK GUY SO STOP GETTING ALL DEFENSIVE WHOS CARES!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND LARA WHAT ARE YOU ON ABOUT ABOUT MY LIFE BEING BULSHIT I DIDNT COME HERE FOR AN ARGUEMENT BUT JUS TO COMMENT FAIRLY LIKE U DID ITS NOT RIGHT AND WRONG ITS MY OPINION WHICH IM ENTITLED TO AND YEH I DO LAUGH AT THIS BLOG WITH MY MATES THEY SHOWED ME THE BLOG AND I READ IT BIG DEAL!!!!!!!
Posted by: Fatima | March 1, 2007 12:54 AM
OH SHUTUP DEEEE UR MOST PROB RUGINA HERSELF COMMENTING POSITIVELY IN DISGUISE.
Posted by: Fatima | March 1, 2007 12:56 AM
i dont c y every1 is arguing on here over some1s doings. i am entitled to my opinion as you are 2 urs and u cant argue abt it and b decent and stop arguin wiv each other, Ruginas story is borin and typical and so wat abt it i jus find it pathetic and while i was on here i fort id post a comment and i have got a life jus cus i passed a blog and commented dnt mean i havn and it ain bulshit DEE and yh ur ryt i dnt have a clue therefore i can only judge from what she has told us like a normal person would so that means u dnt have a flippin clue either so i dno y u comment as if ur all big and bad or if u knw her then its biased and no wonder ur for her rather than against. neway rugina should fink abt doing fings the ryt way and then maybe fings will go ryt 4 her otherwise she will find herself goin from 1 relationship from another and a stain on her name with a reputation. OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGG SO ANNOYIN MANNNN I WAS JUS READIN THIS AS A 1 OFF AND DIDN THINK MAKIN A COMMENT WOULD MAKE IT SERIOUS I DNO EVEN WA I SAID DNT EXPECT ME TO TAKE SOM1S BLOG SERIOUS SOUNDS LIKE A FLIPPIN GAY LIL LIFE STORY OF SOM1 WHO SHUD A GET A GRIP AND NEEDS A WAKE UP CALL GROW UP UR NOT IN HIGH SCHOOL NO MOREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Posted by: FATIMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA | March 1, 2007 01:04 AM
loll! this is soo funny! why is everyone getting so worked up?! its faaake all of it!!
Posted by: shiri | March 1, 2007 01:16 AM
Fatima honey u need to calm down ur gonna giv ur self an heart attack or summat. If all this lame, boring and blah blah blah the GET OFF DA SITE!
Oh and im not big and bad, im better coz i dont JUDGE!
Anon the hadith is Al bukhari and muslim. U should check it u myt learn summat.
Ashley, wi all due respect. Islam does not need to get wi da tyms. Other religions as you have sed have changed and islam nver has or will. Which is y its so unique. Islam is actually good if one follows it properly not only for this lyf but also for the next. Insah allah. (As allah wills)
Posted by: dee | March 1, 2007 10:21 AM
yh i am hving a heart attack this is doing my head in lol and i find it a joke and more of a joke the way u guys are goin so serious getin al worked up of my comments so gay mannnn
Posted by: fatima | March 1, 2007 01:15 PM
whatever lily!! from what i can see rujina obv doesnt know how to behave like a lady. i know im not perfect its not my fault if you think i am perfect cant really blame you for thinking that!!!!!!
Posted by: shamima | March 1, 2007 05:21 PM
oh my god!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! doesnt ashley just go on about her "sikh" boyfriend!!! now thats doing my head in!!!
Posted by: shamima | March 1, 2007 05:26 PM
Just to say my comment in part CAPS was notcalling the blogger a Hypocrite I do not for one second think u r a hypocrite.
Posted by: Anonymous | March 1, 2007 06:19 PM
Yes, I talk a lot about my boyfriend. If it bothers you, don't read my posts. You sound like a child who can't justify what she says so you find something negative to say. I love my boyfriend and I know that we will encounter problems when we decide to get married. i was therefore, using my relationship as an example about the hardships of relationships.
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | March 1, 2007 10:53 PM
and one more thing shamima...yes, I have commented on all of Rugina's posts...but, you seem to do the same thing. I want to comment on here posts because I want to encourage her to follow her heart. I'm in school and don't have a lot of time to surf the net but this girl's story has intrigued me and I make it a habit to read her stories. I'm not 18, I'm actually 25. You are the one who seems like a child using words like "nufin". You also seem so very angry!!! I thought Islam was a peaceful religion? We understand that you think you're an excellent Muslim who will go to heaven. So why don't you go preach your values to someone who cares? Rugina seems to know what she's doing with her life. Do you really think that the ignorant comments that you make are going to make her repent? That's hilarious. She doesn't claim to be religious. So why do you keep throwing your religious beliefs in her face? Why don't you start your own blog about your perfect life? If you could say something mildly educated I might respect you but your posts and use of language, that 12 year olds use to post on blogs, proves that you're not worth respecting. All you have done is insulted me. I have no problem debating with people who know how to speak and write for that matter. Your negativity is disgusting! People are calling her shameful. The funny thing is she never claimed to be religious so how is she shameful? What gives you the right to judge her or me for that matter? People who have less than perfect lives are usually the first to insult people and their choices in life. Guess you're not so perfect after all.
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | March 1, 2007 11:13 PM
Ashley De'costa,
The whole point of having a religion is so that you follow it if you assume that you should change the texting basically your saying what has been written down for millons and millons of years is wrong and that Allah (swt) and all the messengers sayings are wrong.
Obviously you are mislead and not thinking correctly and I can see that your obviously not muslim so you don't understand the religion properly learn it then you should decide whether to follow it or not !!!
Islam is right the right RELIGION to follow its all a test whether you judge Allah's(swt) Qu'ran (holy book) is your sin you shouldn't be teling people to follow you.
Posted by: sahra and fatima | March 2, 2007 01:12 PM
Islam was not founded millions of years ago. perhaps you should do your homework. Yes, what Im saying is that certain points should be changed and the high powers in Islam can do that just like in any other religion. Thank you but I will not follow Islam. And please don't say that your religion is the only true religion. Im tired of people (of any religion) saying that. All religions have their good and bad points but I would never say that mine is the only true religion. That's wrong and ignorant and it leads to prejudice. I have respect for all religions, Im just trying to understand your ways of life.
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | March 2, 2007 06:03 PM
Apparently Rujina doesnt claim to be religious? Well then she shouldnt pick and mix aspects of Islam when it chooses her like justifying wearing tight fitting clothes as long as its not "revealing"
Personally, i think her blogs are made up. I think she stacks shelves for a living and has nothing better to do than make up stories.
Posted by: Forida | March 2, 2007 06:19 PM
erm ashley can you please quote me when i used the word "nufin" and when have i ever thrown religous beliefs in Rujina's face?i cant actually see that in any of my posts! all i've said she's just isnt behaving like a decent girl. btw i dont think im an "excellent muslim" i know im a sinner i commit sin everyday all i can do is pray to Allah (swt) for his forgiveness.
oh and yeah think i will take your advice dont have time to read your lame comments.
Posted by: shamima | March 2, 2007 06:37 PM
uhhhhh shut the hell up lily wa u chatin u weirdo since wen did i say i was perfect all i sed was ruginas story is a joke 4 cryin out lout the way u guys actin like i killed her cat or sum thing yh and maybe shamima is perfect and wa stop highlighting it!
SHAMIMA THANX MANNNNN!
Posted by: Fatima | March 2, 2007 10:52 PM
Oh sorry Shamima, my apologies..you didnt use that word nufin you used 'cos'....and you are telling Rugina to change her ways and be a decent girl!!! I think she is already a decent girl. How is she not behaving like a decent girl??? If going on a date isnt decent then you're the one who needs her head checked. These blogs she's posting have nothing to do with religion!!!!!!!!! She's not asking advice about how to be a decent muslim girl!!!!! As long as you are a caring respectful person-you will go to heaven!!!! I hate when people (of any religion) discuss how people will go to hell if they dont behave in a certain way. That's the problem with organized religions....
Posted by: Ashley DaCosta | March 3, 2007 08:32 PM
Afsana - do not throw islam in everybodies face and down their throat. Live ur life as i wish but dont expect allah/god to bring u a happy ending just because u are a believer. Rujina, for whatever reason you have this blog - i am enjoying the read and wish you luck x
Posted by: Nat | March 5, 2007 09:29 PM
Muslim - good or bad
i read all this talk about being a real muslim, claiming one is not a muslim, i am sure that alot of people of this blog are infact young, ileducated and from the world of INNIT - tell me this 2 ex girlfriends of mine are muslim, both prayed, never gave into temptation during ramadam, go to the mosque - tell me are they good muslims or muslims full stop -NOW LET ME TELL YOU that my ex girlfriends are also lesbians now does this make them a bad muslim or a muslim full stop? a mature and educating reply would be appreciated.
Posted by: nishma | March 5, 2007 09:44 PM
gosh i read thro half the comments and then i just couldn't go onnnn!
some of the hardcore comments are just so infuriating and ppl who say we non-muslims won't understand and especially that 'they' are doing this to help this girl rujina is just total bogas!
get a life!
n yu who preach about her making her life an internet diaries- just try going out more-- u'll definitely have more to talk about than critisising ppl u knw nothing about!
rujina- i'm so with you! pl don't listen to these misery ducks on here- u do what u feel is right!
your guy seems wonderful! its apparant he thinks you are special(he was thoughful enough to get ur special meat even though it wasn't expected of him!), also he doesn't seem to be interested in just sex- not of all he did was kiss n cuddle! he made you feel wonderful, he made you comfortable and as per narrow-mindedness go.. asians esp south-east asians are just the biggest bunch of racists i could ever come across- hell there is still class divide in many parts of india(i dunno about other countries srry- tho it can't b tht different)!
a person's colour doesn't determine anything about him- i'm brown and i couldn't care less about any guy whatever his colour or backgrond!
so go you rujina- go out with him a couple more times and if you really feel he is the right guy then maybe give it a go!
all the bestXXXXXXX
Posted by: preeti | March 8, 2007 08:58 AM
We all have to die, some day.
We are all responsible for our own lives.
Only GOD can JUDGE US!!!
Posted by: tony | March 10, 2007 11:12 AM
We are all aware that their is a blatant class devide within the asian community.
If we fear Allah so much, then why do we marry for MONEY.
HYPOCRITES!!!
Posted by: tony | March 10, 2007 11:17 AM
preeti ur jus a jke i bet u luk like preeti from eastenders u mongo y dont u become a cheerleader 'u go rugina' u rugina arse licker u dnt knw jak abt ppl hu make comments, u dnt like ppls comment the way they dnt like urs. u read her blog and commented jus like other people it isn right or wrong its their opinion u weirdo ur a bunch of jokes jus cus ppl read it and commented negatively dont mean we ain gota social life.
Posted by: il say wa i wan | March 10, 2007 10:02 PM
I've only just started reading this blog and I'm totally horrified by the nasty comments made by narrow minded bigots such as Fatima and Afsana. I totally agree with Lara you do sound jealous - and frankly quite sad. I don't pretend to know much about your religion but my best friend is Muslim and reminds me very much of Rujina. Yes, my friend dates boys but she is also one of the kindest people I know and her open-mindedness and tolerance for other cultures, while staying true to her own principles, has done much to promote Islam and Asian culture to my other non Muslim friends. Unfortunately antiquated and spiteful views like yours do the opposite. You say Rujina isn't a decent girl but in my eyes a girl searching for love and not harming anyone is more decent that writing hateful comments born out of jealousy. Rujina you are NOT a freak. You are brave and intelligent. Please ignore all the mindless comments. I wish you all the luck in the world.
Posted by: Janie | March 15, 2007 03:15 PM
Ashley im not 25 im 18 and i think that you shouldn't judge people by their age. i still follow islam even though i might be at the age where normal people might live in the INNIT world, but not every body is like that. Rujina may be a modern bengali girl, but her parents are still TP bengali and they will always remain that way. its not always about islam, its about how much you respect your parents, what would they do if they find out that their daughter is dating some1. they would feel soo disappointed and also hurt. after sticking up for their daughter, after defending her against the TP bengali society, she slaps them back in the face by dating a guy from a different culture.
Posted by: Afsana | March 16, 2007 12:25 PM
janie that was my opinion at the time i read her blog so thers no ryt and wrng ok thats wa i thought so maybe it is mindless to you then again ur comment maybe mindless to me. I read her blog and commented jus the way u read my comment and commented its what people do regardless if its positive or negative. and i didn mention anything abt Islam. also i do have a life and i am not jealous cant ne 1 comment b4 u guys get so defensive honestly as if u think i put my thoughts in those comments i was jus commentin spontaneously so if its so mindless i dont see y u had 2 highlight it
Posted by: fatima | March 24, 2007 02:15 AM
hahah nice comment forida
ppl are jus way 2 serious takin things serious on net puhhlease
Posted by: :) | April 5, 2007 02:34 AM
RAZZZZZ MAN! I JUST HEARED ABOUT THIS TODAY AND ITS SO FUNNYY... the same ppl keep on replying...one thing veryyy SAD are those ppl [not gona mention names but you know who are] .. you keep saying 'get a life, 'i got better things to do', 'im not jelous i got a life' bla bla crap! look how much you've written!!!!*SADDOS* u lot must be even DEPRESSED with your lives to read and have comments about another girls life story whether its true or not. and PLEASE spare the islamic FATWAAS people! if you had any knowledge or sense you'll know that you shouldn't be on here reading such gibberish! i only posted this for your own good. get off the net, find a life and stop wasting it on here. [p.s. there are sum hardcore bigmouths here! is that what you are like in real life?????SHEESH!!! feel sorry for the ppl who know ya!]
Posted by: fit bengali boy | April 5, 2007 01:51 PM
I agree it is way to funny, however obviously same people are going to reply if they are having comments to reply to. And also just because people have commented so much does not contradict the fact when they say they are not jealous and they do have a life. So if you say its wrong to be on here for God knows why then why are you? Funny you think people are depressed due to their numerous comments. You’re here, you read comments, you posted a blog, does that make u depressed and sad? Hell no! Stop wasting your time giving us advice for our so called ‘good’ but your wasting your time I guess as were wasting ours, works both ways! I guess it starts when you make one comment and someone dies about it and that’s when you reply and it goes on! And fit Bengali boy? yh great u so have a life……bet u will reply now and that’s how it goes u end up replying buy I guess u wnt nw cus I sed that. Il mention the names, ppl like Dee and Ashley and Lara say get a life and ur jealous cus they cant take a negative comment made towards Rugina by someone totally random who most prob don’t give 2 shits. I came on here one day aswel and found it funi and commented and had so much feedback I jus replied and replied and jus check the blog now and again don’t make neones life depressed or sad, maybe urs is as to y u fink that!
Posted by: :) | April 6, 2007 02:03 AM
for effs sake no ones sad being here whoever says that jus makes u more than sad
chek u there are som hardcore bigmouths u sound like one 2 feel sori 4 ppl hu knw u
so wa ppl comment, ppl accuse that som dnt have a life and urr y? say anythin against Rugina apparently ur jealous and no life.
Posted by: wtf | April 6, 2007 02:16 AM
fit bengali boy do u mean me when u mentioned ppl say they have a life and they ain jealous? obviously thats wa im gna say when ppl say im jealous and have no life....it dont make me sad or depressed its jus same as u i came accross this blog found it wel funi i sed that and had the whole room attack me so u knw i replied and that, ur tellin ppl stop wasting ther time? dont waste urs,,,,, u shudn have commented bet loadsa ppl gna reply 2 ur comment nw.i dnt get it juz cuz ppl reading this dnt mean they got no life....neways i jus feel like 2 clarify myself and put a stop 2 this in my name lol cus my comments are evrywher jus cus i sed i i dnt like rugina it ain a crime and its hardly serious its meaningless so ppl stop replyin 2 me nw
Posted by: fatima | April 6, 2007 02:27 AM
for those who boost Rugina to what she is doing jus stik 2 that and stop commentin on ppl hu are sayin shes a freak if its so meaningless and for those commenting on other ppls comments sayin there sad 2 comment jus dnt comment all 2gva it makes u sound like a bigger saddo
Posted by: Anon | April 6, 2007 10:58 PM
afsana get a life this aint even reality also fatima whats wrong with u? some muppet has made all this up and you are going all nuts on her.
yo dee get a life dont be dissin afsana. Ashley u no nothing of islam start reading books, afsana can lend you some. Nat u lil rat... u dont understand the role of women in islam. the muslims were the first people to grant there women the right to a divorce way before the church of england. islam was also the first to grant there women the right to inherit possessions. islam was the first to allow women the right to buy land in there own right, way before women were even given the right to vote in britain.... plz look in to islam more before u comment
one love afsana and fatima but plz reframe from judging.... (",)
Posted by: hussnein | May 9, 2007 12:27 PM
omg Hussnein, thanks for the one love but what the hell lol i knoww it ain reality i didn judge rugina im arguin with ppl commentin on me jus cuz i sed the blog was sad jus the way u r commentin on the ppl u disagree with....
oh hussnein take care lol
Posted by: fatima | May 10, 2007 01:11 AM
oh hussnein i had to reply again ur too funi, chek ur comment! if u read properly ud see i ain judgin rugina or her ways ryt im speakin 2 the ppl commentin on here and also no1 judgin rugina is layin her story on the table so u knw bound to have mixed opinions. k byeee
Posted by: fatima | May 10, 2007 01:14 AM
AFSANA DO YOU WATCH SCARY MOVIES? IF U DO, UR GONNA DIEEEEEEEEEEEE AT 12.00 HAHAHAH
U KNOW HU I IZ!
Posted by: SCARY MOVIE | May 10, 2007 01:15 AM
wow fatima i have looked at your comments about rujina and judging by your statments you must be jealous of all the girls who are supporting rujina. your comments are crazy and lame. you should get a life because its looks as if you sit in front of your pc and diss rujina's life, as you have nothing better to do. you should get with the times as your comments are too old for this modern world.
Posted by: Naz | May 11, 2007 11:10 AM
HI JUST WANTA BIG UP FATIMA FOR NOT SAYING MUCH BUT MAKING THIS THE MAD BLOG EVER THIS IS BY FAR THE ONE WITH MOST COMMENTS AND IT STARTED CAUSE OF YOU! IM ON UR SIDE GURRL WHY OH WHY ARE PEOPLE GOING CRAZY ON YOU, I BACK U UP U HADNT SED MUCH ON RUGINA JUST THAT YOU FIND THIS WHOLE THING SAD IM SURE I RECALL THEN PEOPLE BOMBARD U WITH ALL THIS JUDGING MALARKY! OH WELL HYPOCRITES FOR JUDGING U..ALL THE BEST
Posted by: Boy Man Male | May 13, 2007 07:25 PM
Oh honestly Screw u Naz about tym ppl jus get over the fact that I dissed Rugina on my first ever comment and so bloody wat! Its YOU who must be a saddo with no life who sits in front of the pc and reads someones comments and creates a dumb conclusion of how im jealous, giv it a break man. if u read properly ud see that I ain sed much abt Rugina and anything abt ne1 else jus replyin 2 comments made bak 2 me that’s all.
jus cus i sed i dnt like rugina it ain a crime and its hardly serious its meaningless so ppl stop replyin 2 me nw cus the more u say I needa a life, u guys do for commentin 2 me tha much if my comments are 2 ‘meaningless’ and ‘old for this modern world’ then eff off and shurup cuz u guys are cryin 2 much now. oh 'get a life' line....jus a get a new line
Posted by: Anonymous | May 14, 2007 01:09 PM
'' I think wat rujina did to her husband is wrong she didn’t even give him a chance ''
OHMMMM HUSSNEIN PLS REFRAIN FROM JUDGING ........ contradictin urslf ther mann!
Posted by: f | May 14, 2007 01:22 PM
haha larfin my guts owt! fatima u havent even read the blog have u and chek all the mad ppl dying about wtu sed
Posted by: z4r4 | May 14, 2007 01:29 PM
Fatimah take some advice....Sit back and relax and watch the show you created, let them commit suicide over your comment, yor the 1 larfin ini
Posted by: Mehad | May 14, 2007 11:23 PM
I have read this for a while now and how I did not comment earlier beats me, I find it so strange on how people are commenting towards some people and felt intrigued to mention Fatima as its been forever ongoing so please Can I suggest we turn a blind eye to the mindless comment which Fatima had made and who is also repeatedly trying to justify herself as a means that’s she doesn't give a 'sod' about this so why oh why are people making a scene. It is seen obvious that the young lady comments thoughtlessly and the fact some of you pin point on her makes you hypocrites as from what I have seen she only said this is sad so, so be it! that’s not judging Rugina, that isn’t being a hypocrite that doesn’t make her jealous and it doesn’t make anyone else just the same! Now people leave Fatima alone because this ‘tasty chicken jerk‘ seems to have her name written over it and it is rather unnecessary and to be honest what she even said was merely minor and some people took it as a opportunity to reply like idiots. I am not agreeing with her at all but as we all seem to think her comment is meaningless then why all this! People can argue there case just as much as what people are throwing in there face, your in the same boat, If people say that someones comments are meaningless, mindless, old fashioned, wrong, then in there eyes that can make your comments the same meanings. Can we just leave this as I am very interested in the blog and would rather see some positive debates going on here and real suggestions to Rugina's blog rather than hypocrites judging others and belittling one another.
Posted by: Einstein | May 15, 2007 12:25 AM
loved the last dialogue fatima
Posted by: afsana | May 15, 2007 11:50 AM
Wot izz diss? Fatemah Petition! Oh My....Well wer in then..... ;)
Posted by: Shazmin and Ameenah | May 16, 2007 02:32 AM
Guys look at the end of the day yeh her lifestyle isnt very rare to what other girls do, wa she works and dates a guy so wat she got divorced cus the man was a freshi she wasn compatiable with,,,and the point isss? ther is nothin 2 discuss or debate abt and to be frank this site is bull but yeh out of this blog some thing else has come up ur discussions and points are gone way out of context but its good 2 read. But yeh from an Islamic View she can practise herself and encourage Dante and hopefully they can marry, im not forcing religion on 2 no1 and with Islam pls dont judge as to wat ppl say on here because ther is alot more to it where u wud need more information and knowledge so dont take away Islam from here as it will leav u with bad impressions, It is a right way of life and there is answers to everything if u speak and ask the right person. Open ur eyes...Gud luk...Also before i go lol ppl are so defensive on here, i mean Kaza for instance was backin black men when no1 had said anything about it.....i know wa its like being asian people get married bak home and it dont work out because no from of communication and no real relationship forms obviously in some cases it does and also its like family politics but it may be that Rugina is too modern for a freshi and didn give him time and u know gave up which is not wrong or right in that case just her choice but i can see where the likes of Afsana is enforcing religion as it is true what she means but her interperations may not be clear enough for non muslims but i know where u are coming from. people supporting rugina is fine but stick to that and dont be so defensive to ppl against her almost makes u look like u care just leave them to it and they wont matter
Posted by: ME | May 16, 2007 03:01 AM
THE BLOG IS WELL DRY....ITS FAKE AND RUGINA CHATS COWS SHIT WHAT SHE SAYING SOUNDS TRUE WITH ABIT OF HER OWN MADE REMIX BUT TO SEE COMMENTS IS THE SPICY BITS CANT WAIT TO SEE PEOPLE WHO BOMBARD ME WITH REPLIES...IL CHECK IN MY SPARE TIME AND OH DONT TRY THE 'YOU DONT HAVE A LIFE' THING ON ME JUST CUZ IM COMMENTING AND BEEN ON THE SITE.. IM PREPARED I SEEN THE DISASTERS HERE AND KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT AND EXACTLY HOW TO REPLY TO PEE U OFF I HAD SOME PRACTISE MIGHT GIVE SOME DODGY ADVICE LIKE AFSANA OR SAY SOMETHING LITTLE AND GET YOU OFF ON ONE LIKE FATIMA OR TRY AND BE CLEVER LIKE ASHLEY OR HUSSNEIN AND WHOOOOOOOO IS SCARY MOVIE
Posted by: BOY MAN MALE - URS TRULY | May 16, 2007 03:17 AM
excuse me "boy man male urs truly", what do you mean by dodgy advice?
Posted by: afsana | May 16, 2007 10:05 AM
Man boy - you sound scary mate!
Posted by: anon | May 16, 2007 10:58 AM
Yo “bad man male” what the hell are u chatting about m8, don’t be dissing AFSANA with a name like bad man male u batty boy. When has she ever given bad advice if u read all the blogs her and Fatima are the only one’s talking sense. Hussnein isn’t half bad he also knows what he’s talking about it looks to me that u don’t know anything. LMAO
Posted by: jahangir | May 16, 2007 12:20 PM
FOR THE BLOOMING RECORD THE NAMES BOY MAN MALE [YEAH I KNOW GAY] BUT IT NOT BAD MAN MALE. YOU GUYS COMMENT TO HASTILY WITHOUT REALISING WHAT YOU SAY....'SAY SOMETHING LITTLE AND GET YOU OFF ON ONE LIKE FATIMA ' THAT IS NOTHING AGAINST HER, INFACT I BACK HER UP ON THIS I AM ON HER LEVEL I FEEL AS IF IM COMMENTING HERE AND PEOPLE ARE MISUNDERSTANDING ME AS IF I REALLY CARE ABOUT THIS. IM EMPHASISING HOW SHE SAYS SO LITTLE AND THE COMMENTERS GET IRRITATED. WITH AFSANA MAYBE I DID NOT MAKE MYSELF VERY CLEAR, I PERSRONALLY DONT THINK ITS DODGY ITS THE OTHERS I MEANT TO PUT INVERT COMMAS ON IT BUT HEY I NEVER I DID ON THE OTHER HAND THINK ITS VERY BLUNT AND MISLEADING TO OTHER READERS TO WHAT SHE SAYS - SO DONT BITE MY HEAD OFF PEEPS! AND I 'AIN DISSIN AFSANA'
I WAS HERE SO I CAN CUT THE SLACK FOR PEEPS LIKE FATIMA TUT TUT YOU GUYS DID NOT GET IT AYEEE! I AGREE SHE IS THE ONE MAKING SENSE..
Posted by: BOY MAN MALE | May 16, 2007 10:55 PM
Ashley, i really think you have no clue at all. I think you should take your narrow-minded views and take them elsewhere because they have no relevance whatever to the discussion at hand. You should take a deeper think about what you want in life and should NOT judge people for their errors or mistakes.
Thats all i have to say about you.
Posted by: Hussnein | May 18, 2007 09:58 AM
I'M asian pakistani myself and i absolutely despise and hate asian women, i think their arrogant pigs, i'd rather date/marry a white jewish or black women, rujina can go with date, cos i would't go with a pakistani women even if i was desperate.
Posted by: SALim | August 20, 2007 10:52 AM
Salim, I don't think you are Pakistani or Asian at all. I think you are a black guy preferably Dante if not Rugina herself.
Posted by: Anonymous | September 4, 2007 05:20 PM
wat the hell is Salim on abt weirdo
Posted by: anonymous | September 8, 2007 10:15 PM
hi rujina - been reading all the comments etc and your story - dont marry out of of your faith, - this guy youve met he need s to convert first,- if he doesnt he just wants to get his end away simple as - also you ve had different comments from different peeps - some positive some not, - obviously the women whom are not muslim and who think they are all modern in thinking, dont give a damn about your religion or you - what do they know about islamic faith and its importance - if u value your life, and want to marry, get to know this guy 1s t - he may just play u or may not,
2nd - convert him / dont go over the boundry line and lose faith - and lastly
u die without faith then your a gonner -
think b4 deciding
adios
Posted by: Ebrahim | March 16, 2008 01:14 PM
hi regina,i think that you knew by writing this you'd get lots of different opinions.I am also a muslim bengali girl, i think that as a muslim we should help and advise others to follow the right path and stay away from the wrong path.
I know how you feel,you have found another guy that you like,but as a muslim having this freedom,is wrong.You need to consider your religion and if you really want this then mabye you should give up on islam. this is the first tim that i have read this,and i enjoyed it. Im not out to offend you but you need to consider everything...life is hard...but not as hatd as akhirat where you will be punished for all this!think about it...
Posted by: silent | July 7, 2008 08:39 PM